Saturday, May 31, 2014

21 Facts About Love and Falling in Love

Note: Well, it is raining outside, and I am here to do what I do best... This is an impromptu post inspired by a few experiences I've heard from the people around me, from my world of relationships and mostly in the early part of today (this Saturday);


1.   You are not the first one, and you won't be the last one to fall in love, so stop thinking that it has only happened to you. That friend of yours has had it before, it is just that they talk about it less.
2.   Don't allow love to make you stupid. Use your heart, but again, use your mind. Using one without the other leaves you half-lame and half-idiotic.
3.   Love is a beautiful thing, but if it is not well tamed, it can be the worst thing that happened to you.
4.   If someone has made "your world to stop", that person is the most dangerous thing in your life right now. Give them boundaries unless you really want your life to STOP.
5.   If two people are fighting for the love of one person (say two dudes are in for this one chiq), it is the chiq who is stupid and doesn't know what she wants. She is likely to lose both of them.
6.   Don't talk to us about love if you are in a relationship with more than one person. That is either lust or infatuation.
7.   We Christian men and our fellow ladies are too naïve to fall in love because we mostly fear rejection, but we should never (anyway, it is obvious that we can't) force anyone to be in a relationship with us all in the name of God. It is stupid. Falling in love should come out naturally, and it should never be impulsive.
8.   Love is not the end of life. Fall in love, but have a life. I say it again: fall in love, but have a life. This will make your love make sense and last longer.
9.   Correction and rebuke are part of "I love you so much that I can't handle losing you...". Anyone who positively criticizes you and rebukes you is the best partner you can ever have.
10. Love is not sex, and sex is not love. Stop misusing and mixing the two. They exist independently from each other. Thus both the man who wants proof of love through sex, and the woman who wants the proof of love through money share the same thing: silliness and greed.
11. If I love you, I should be ready to sacrifice a few things I DEARLY LOVE in order to be with you. If not, I am just using you as a means to my well-being, and I am selfish, egotistic and mean... Yeah.
12. Love is not one-sided. It always gives back. The best love is when it is mutually shared and exchanged. One-sided love (where only one person loves the other) is as bad as a man/woman with one leg, one hand and one eye trying to climb a tree. Utterly incomplete. Utterly horrendous.
13. Gifts don't buy love. Try honesty, trust and openness. They may buy it a little. (Just a little.)
14. If you are falling for someone, tell them. Don't regret it later when they are already taken. It takes a lifetime to fall in love and to find your type, (oh well, that's not a fact but an assumption) so don't waste opportunities when they're presented to you. (I hope y'all saved dudes are hearing me on this one.)
15. Make friends. Laugh. Don't take life too seriously. The more easy-to-interact-with and easy-to-approach people find you, the more attractive you become; thus the higher your chances of falling in love. Only 1% of the total population of human beings is interested in boring people. At least be boring but attractive. (Lol.)
16. Love is like a machine - it always needs lubricants called affirmation and affection; love is like a vehicle - it can't move unless it is driven, so be wise around it.
17. Love can die, but love cannot be buried. It has no grave that befits its greatness. We can pretend to stop loving people, but we can never pretend about how they make/made us feel. That is a fact.
18. We can fall in love a million times, but every time we do so, it is different. We can never fall in love in the same way and with the same intensity. It is always different all the time. This also, my friend, is a fact.
19. Everyone falls in love and everyone can fall in love. We just fear admitting it.
20. You may think differently about people you have been in relationships with, but you SHOULD NEVER think differently about love. It is the same all through - pure, perfect, selfless, unending and never failing. That is love. 
And;
21. I'm not in love, so stop being curious and stop asking already... :-)
For more information, please contact heaven and ask for Jesus Christ. There is no one who knows about these things more or better than He does.

Never stop loving. Keep that fire burning...


Bonface Morris.

Thursday, May 22, 2014

Musings And Observations Part 2 (Church Edition)

If you have not yet read part one of this series of blog posts, read it here.

In the recent past, I have had spontaneous "micro-debates" with random people about the Church, sound doctrine and the universality of religion. These discussions may not have been conclusive enough - to the point of deriving meaningful inferences - but I have (at least) come to understand a few things about how people interpret and understand religion and matters of Faith.
There is a certain conclusion though we all came to: that the Church is diverse in its approach to both evangelism and mode of worship; and although we are all this diverse, unity is not so much lacking as far as doctrine and sound Christian teaching is concerned.
Here below are some of my observations on the Church - of which I am part of;

We mutually wear a certain disguise called "pettiness"
A few weeks ago, we were presented with a controversial discussion on “the Church and Morality” - so to say - as was depicted in a certain poster outside a mega church in Kenya’s capital, Nairobi.

The poster is here below (courtesy of UlizaLinks);

"Blurred Lines" - A sermon series courtesy of Mavuno Church
Many claimed that the poster was very controversial (put "very" in CAPS) (and of course it was controversial) as far as Christian values are/were concerned, condemned it and blatantly claimed that that church’s leadership (Mavuno Church) was misguiding our young people (and of course talking of young people, I should be one of them), and that they should apologize for doing so.

The discussion emanated into 2 weeks of funny internet memes and GIFs, and I am very sure that you either retweeted, commented on, or laughed at all those twerkusifu jokes.

But this was not funny, my friend. It was not.
 
These were serious issues in our society - issues affecting ALL young people - being tackled by the church... Just in a different way altogether...
Okay, I gave my two pence on what I felt (and still feel) about the Mavuno Poster (as it came to be known) and moved on. Some people hated me (“caught feelings”), some supported me, and it went on the way it did... And if you were to tell me right then - and even right now - that Mavuno Church was/is not addressing current challenges amongst young people, (saved or unsaved), I would/ I will drag you to the ground with it...

See, today, I have had a few Christians (including myself) complain about things they see in other Christians - things they think are just wrong. You know it, right? It is a common thing. It mostly has been due to “not liking how the other person is serving God” by claiming that they are not capitalizing on the “basic, major and fundamental parts of the Christian Faith”, or on how bad they are as compared to us.

Note: Differentiate between pettiness and differences in doctrine as in cases when we attack, speak against and refute false teachers, heresies and teachings. In this case, I am talking about our petty reactions towards other normal Christians.

I have been a victim of such accusations. People claim that because I am a leader in many capacities, there are things I should not talk about, and that there are things I should be silent about. Some of these things include; love relationships, politics, humor, commenting on certain TV Shows, current news, affairs and on secular music (although I don’t listen to secular music or have any of it on any of my gadgets).

All these critics claim that I should base my christian influence on teaching Scripture and being the blunt and stoic Christian they are. But in retaliation, I have always asked, “Are we here to only reach out to the saints or also to the unsaved? Is my service to God (including this blog) only meant for the "cherched" or also to the "uncherched”? Why do we like to spiritualize everything? Huh?


If I have to reach out to anyone at all, the tools I may use need to make sense both to the believer (in line with Scripture) and to the unbeliever (for them to gain an understanding of what Christianity is all about.)

People have different needs as far as general life is concerned; some just need encouragement, some need Scripture full time, some need humor, others need music; some seek for news while others are attracted to weirdness. End point? Christ should be preached. Christ should revealed. To all people.
Anyway, am I sinning by doing this, by using all tools available to me to reach out to as many people as possible? No. Okay, does Jesus Christ, my Lord, feel offended when I do it? No. So what? Why do we have to make the Gospel so unreachable and so hard to pursue and love? I love being saved. I love it. I cannot imagine myself without salvation. I want other people to love it through seeing me as I enjoy it. That is all I want - for all people to know the Jesus I know, relate with Him and thereafter come to love Him.
The Mavuno poster unveiled our pettiness - how we choose to react to issues without basing our view on Scripture but on how we feel. When did the Gospel become subject to how we feel and what we think (our opinions)?

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Jesus, in His time, used examples the people around him could relate with so that He would drive his message home. He wanted them to understand Him - to understand the message of the Kingdom in the easiest way possible. The Pharisees called it crazy, but God called it awesome. They called unorthodox, but the Father called it obedience. Note the difference.

The Apostle Paul had “a fight” with the Apostle Peter on this same issue in Galatians Chapter 2 (please read the whole chapter to get what I am saying) when Peter claimed that the Gospel was only to be preached in a certain way and only to the Jews. Paul on the other hand felt that the Gospel was to be preached by all means possible to both Jews and Gentiles. End point? God intervenes in Acts 10 by showing Peter that the Gospel was not limited to the Jews alone but that it was for the Gentiles too, thus justifying what Paul had earlier preached in Romans 9:15 (and what Peter had been knowing all along because it was written in the very Torah he ardently followed - Exodus 33:19 (ESV) “And he said, 'I will make all my goodness pass before you and will proclaim before you my name ‘The LORD.’ And I will be gracious to whom I will be gracious, and will show mercy on whom I will show mercy.'”and in Hosea 2:23 (ESV) “...and I will sow her for myself in the land. And I will have mercy on No Mercy, and I will say to Not My People, ‘You are my people’; and he shall say, ‘You are my God.’”)

The argument between Paul and Peter presents to us what the modern church has become: petty. We have become like the Corinthian church which Paul wrangled with asking them in 1 Corinthians 3:4 (ESV), “For when one says, ‘I follow Paul,’ and another, ‘I follow Apollos,’ are you not being merely human /petty?” (the word 'petty' is my own addition).

My observation is that the greatest opposition the church is facing today is not from the world but from within. We are fighting amongst ourselves more than we are fighting against sin and the many atrocities in the world. Our pettiness - not based on the Holy Scripture - is our spiritual backlog.
We are acting like the fella below that Jesus once talked about

You got a speck in your eye!!
This is how I think we should act around a fellow Christian when they are not doing things the same way we do them (putting in mind that our way of doing things is not law as far as the Spirit of God is concerned.)
We should ask ourselves;

  1. Are they sinning? If not, why criticize them?
  2. Is what they are doing positively changing someone's life- both in the Church and in the world? If yes, why oppose them?
  3. Are they being guided by God in what they are doing? Are they glorifying God? Is the Spirit of God and His Word being involved?  If yes, then why stand against ourselves?

If we were to read and understand the message in Romans Chapter 14, and read it over and over again with an open mind and allow God's Spirit to speak to us, our pettiness would become less and less by the day.

People make mistakes. People sin. You also sin and make mistakes. They need a break. We should give them some breathing space - because we expect the same of ourselves when we err.

Note: These two articles reveal and describe how good we are at being petty: “Why People Really Like Jesus More Than Christians” and “Why I Quit Church (and the Surprise That Brought Me Back)”

Baseless blame games
Then in some other contexts, I have met numerous people (both believers and unbelievers) complaining about Church leadership and how they are falling away from the Church because of leader so-and-so or pastor-so-and-so.
Wait. So people are refusing to be faithful to God on the account of others? Is one's life tagged within another's life? Is spirituality a matter of an individual of a society or of a group? Will I go to heaven because my pastor (or another person's pastor) or leader is going to heaven or on the account of my own life and commitment to God? Why do people blame pastors and/or church leaders for fallen saints or any other sins within a congregation or a given denomination? Are pastors or leaders supposed to be gods so that they may jump like saving angels at some sort of an alarm and save church members from willful sinning?
Okay. Would we blame Jesus Christ for Judas Iscariot’s eloping, greed and love for money? Or blame the apostle Paul for Giaus’s leaving or the apostle John for Deotrephes’s weird mannerisms? Were all these leaders “unspiritual”? that some few people around them fell back and went back into the world? Why then do we call our pastors and leaders "unspiritual" because of some other person's sinful life? Isn't obedience to God's Word an individual's responsibility?

Whenever we blame others and make them responsible for our failures (or other people's failures), we are just being self-righteous, mean, judgmental and self-ish. Leaders and pastors are part of the body of Christ just as we are. They are no better than us. They have just been given a higher office of responsibility as compared to us, but that does not make them immune to sin or to the devil's temptation(s). They experience burn-out and feel weak, exhausted, betrayed and run down just as we often do. We should stop blaming them for all the things we see happening in our congregation(s) and instead pray for/with them. There, we will be part of the solution instead of being part of the problem.
I don't deny that some of them deliberately sin and that others advocate for evil and wicked deeds amongst their followers, but why not pray for them instead? Yeah, we should rebuke them and correct them, but why not pray for them after doing so?
The body of Christ should be able to heal itself through forgiveness, love and prayer; and not tear itself apart through ridicule, factions and slurring...
That's my opinion.


I close my case.

Wait for Part 3 in the near future.


Bonface Morris.

Wednesday, May 7, 2014

I Have A Type

People interested in how I am doing - relationships-wise and generally in life - have been asking me a lot of questions of late.
These questions have been centered upon current trends in relationships and things like on-line dating (inclusive of social media hookups, stalking and WhatsApp what-nots), having "types" (which is what I am trying to address in this post) and getting the eternally evasive "Mr/Mrs Right".

These are common relationship concerns amongst people of my age, and it is obvious that we cannot (in the widest use of the word) conclusively dissolve them in a few minutes. Nope. They require time, and research, and blabbering (lots of blabbering :-)), and yeah, agreement, in order to get everyone on the same page and drive the point home. Questions on relationships are like thus... (methinks.)

So with the many questions I have been being asked, something came up: types, yeah, types. And in that discussion, we revolved around TV Shows like Tujuane (now being aired on NTV) and Are You My Type (aired on KTN).
I will give you an account of the latter.

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Just the other day, @KTNKenya started airing a dating reality TV Show called "Are You My Type?". The name on its own baffled many and it somehow stirred excitement in all of us - the kind of excitement that is always common amongst middle income Kenyans when new stuff is being introduced on our TV screens. But after the show premiered, and knowing the kind of background our African culture has handed over to us, and that we have not yet fully come to terms with adopting Reality TV Shows or anything close to them, the program has not yet received placable positive feedback (at least from what I gather on various webosphere streets).
@KTNKenya's "Are You My Type?" (#KTNMyType) is aired on Saturdays from 8-9pm, EAT.
Nevertheless, I think the TV Show (or program depending on what you think of it) is still achieving it's goal: bringing in discussions on relationships and dating and whether we can boldly and openly give a portrait of a specific person and the traits we would want to have in a partner or not. It has led to many of us pretending that "we don't have a type" or that "we DO have a type, but it is complicated", and others maintaining that a type is overrated, yet still, others calmly saying that they Do have a type.
This post is part of those discussions.
So, anyway, what is "a type?" 
To me, a type is a preference someone has for someone of the opposite sex based on various habits, character, behavior, personality and values they find [attractive] in the other person. That is a type.

And if that is the correct definition of a type, then I guess I am right to say that we all have types. Right? We all prefer a certain people to others. We all are choosy when it comes to relationships. We would rather hang around a certain league of friends, and not others. We tend to like a certain person more because of who and what they are as perceived by us (whether objectively or impulsively), and not just because they are a person. We all have a type. 

Consider this...

Take for instance, Adrian and James. They are two friends with different tastes (another word that is used alongside a type) in women. Let's say that they both are born again Christians and that they both will have one central criterion in choosing which woman suits their world - a saved lady.
Mmmmhhh... And given that time, opportunity and chance and all the other constraining factors are put at a constant, Adrian, when asked which lady he'd prefer as his woman, will give the following description; saved (as a central factor), beautiful, homely, kind, generous, outgoing, extroverted, sensitive, intuitive and so forth and so on...
On the other hand, when asked, his friend will come up with the following qualities; saved (as a central factor), faithful, introverted, calm, obedient, thoughtful, independent...
Adrian thinks that obedient and introverted women are wimps and, er, douchebags (forgive me for that), but James reiterates that such women are supportive, warmly, encouraging and comforting (considering the kind of work he does...).
You can see that there are a few differences in the choices made by the two about a lady that each would prefer - one which fits in their world, about their type...

Also consider this...

Annabelle and Susan are good friends. They have been friends from five years of age when their families were relocated to the same town and begun living in the same estate. One almost knows what the other may want in life - including men (or so they think.) Both of them are saved ladies, and will both want a saved man (that is their central factor) for a relationship. But when asked, these BFF cannot have the same choice in what they want in that saved man, or any saved man in particular!
Annabelle prefers a man that is tall, yet to Susan, height is not a factor. Annabelle prefers a well groomed man: short hair, fashion-sensitive and savvy (not necessarily formal but cool), with good eye contact, assertive and ambitious and not necessarily wealthy but earning a living and able to take care of her and her babies (yeah, she's already thinking of marriage :-)); but her friend on the other hand prefers a laid back man, well-groomed (and specifically one that loves suits and is formal in his dressing code), educated, ambitious and one who can literally "spoil her with goodies" (wealthy). Annabelle thinks that wealthy men are insensitive, loud-mouthed and braggarts, while her friend denies it and says that such men offer security both to her and to the future family...
The two friends differ in their choice of the kind of man they like.
They have types. 
type is the key to falling in love.

After the lecture above (which actually is my distorted research), there are a few things we need to understand about having a type;
  1. You have a type. He/she exists. Whether saved or not, you have a preferred type of person/spouse you want in your life and not just anyone. No one just fits in your life. No. Your relationship life revolves around picking out people with a certain balance of characteristics and values, so, yes, you have a type. Me too. :-)
  2. Neither your friends nor your family conclusively know your type. They may give you suggestions and pointers, but you need to follow your heart/gut. It knows better. Like in the two illustrations above, Adrian cannot choose a lady for James, nor can James do the same for Adrian. The same goes to the ladies. One can give suggestions on what they think can suit the other but it should never be the final word. It will be catastrophic if Annabelle or either of the guys decides to put the future and worth of their relationships in their friend's hands. They'll get lost and end up regretting it in the long run. Why? Because whatever one sees in one person, is never always what the other sees in the same person... We all view and perceive people differently.
  3. There are only two people that know your type: you and God, so stick to that script.
  4. Sometimes, it is important to give people time. They may become your type, eventually. Don't push people away with so-called "first impressions". They may just have slipped from the norm, so give them time. Note: Remember I said sometimes... not always. Know the difference.
  5. What dating (or courtship in Christian circles) does is to help one gauge the other person against various wants and needs they have. Dating/courtship is a selfish (but good way, or woreva way) of sieving amongst many people, in order to get the right type. It is a way of saying, "I am secretly interviewing you for a job, a job of taking care of me and all that I am, and I need you to fit that criterion..." :-)
  6. Types are at the center of falling in love. Yes, you heard me right. We fall in love based on how other people make us feel when they are in sync with our love language (I will talk in length about the love language soon.)
Now you know you have a type, and that I have one too. Let's deal with it. We can continue living in denial -  as a way of dealing with it - or we can accept it as it is and be dealing with it too...
So, be it as it may, let's just deal with it anyway.

Until some other time,


Bonface Morris.

Thursday, May 1, 2014

Solomon Lange – Yabo (Praise) Lyrics & free mp3 Download

This song has been on repeat on my music player, and it surely deserves it. Bear me witness;


Song: Yabo
Album: Alheri
Year released: 2012
Artist: Solomon Lange
Genre: Nigerian (Urban/Afro-fusion worship)

Lyrics:

Verse 1:
(Ooooooh, ey!)
Some trust in chariots, some trust in horses, but we trust in the Name of the LORD
Some trust in their skills, others trust in their kins, but we trust in the Name of the LORD
When the arm of flesh will fail them, we’ll still be standing tall, ‘coz we trust in the Name of the LORD
When they say there’s a casting down, we will say there’s a lifting up, ‘coz we trust in the Name of the LORD…

Bridge/Pre-Chorus:
Menene zan baka masoyi na, domin kaunar ka, zuwa gareni?
(What do I offer to You my lover, to appreciate the love You have shown me?)
Menene zan baka mai ceto na, domin alherin ka zuwa gareni?
(What kind of a thing do I give to You, for what You have shown me?)

Chorus:
{(Yabo daga zuchiya) x3 (Na bakra (na bakra)) x2} x2
{(Praise from my heart) x3 (I give You) (I give You)) x2} x2

Verse 2:
If the LORD doesn’t build a house, then we labor all in vain, but we trust in the Name of the LORD
If the LORD doesn’t watch the city, then we stay awake in vain, but we trust in the Name of the LORD
Greater is He who is in me, than he who is in the world, I triumph in the Name of the LORD

Repeat Bridge/Pre-Chorus

Repeat Chorus

Verse 3:
Blow the trumpet in Zion
Serve the Lamb on the Holy Mountain
We will never be afraid
We’ve got the victory, we’ve got the victory, forever
Yabo daga zuchiya, suchada daga zuchiya
(I’ll praise You from my heart, I’ll lift You from my heart)
Yabo daga zuchiya, dhodiya daga zuchiya
(I’ll praise You from my heart, Lord from my heart)

Repeat Chorus


Bonface Morris.

Friday, April 25, 2014

Casting Crowns (Thrive), Mandisa (Overcomer) and Britt Nicole (Still That Girl): Reviews, Lyrics and mp3 Downloads

Have you ever been in a place in life where you are wondering, "LORD/God are you really still there…!?”and you seem to be asking yourself so many questions as to why things are not working out the way they should? Well, I have been there; and the Psalmist was there too (Psalm 35:22 (NLT) "O LORD, you know all about this. Do not stay silent. Do not abandon me now, O Lord."). Christ was there too (Matthew 27:46 (NLT) "At about three o'clock, Jesus called out with a loud voice, 'Eli, Eli, lema sabachthani?' which means 'My God, my God, why have you abandoned me?'")
It has happened to many servants of God, it happened to Jesus, and it happens to the best of us. There is no exception to this.
The three songs I am sharing today are going to speak to your life in that place of disarray and wonder... to remind us that we were made to thrive, we are overcomers and that we are still that girl/boy... and that we can still achieve our goals. God is still VERY PRESENT and is thinking well of us - planning what is best for us.
So, here goes...
Casting Crowns' song from their newest album "Thrive"  released on 28th January this year, is cool song - cool in all the essence of "coolness" you can ever imagine as far as Christianity is concerned. It has a touch of pop, acoustics and an old Irish feel, making you somehow want it more, and somehow  try to "dig it out"...
This song (and a good part of this album) is filled with a message of hope and is tagging along the theme line we were made to thrive...! It is a song worthy listening to. It is reminding us that regardless of what we face in this life, on this world, we are still the trees at His river bank... bearing fruit in and out of season (Psalm 1:3) and that it's time for  us to more than just survive... we truly were made to thrive...!!
Mandisa's "Overcomer" is, well, also out of this world. This album (Overcomer) won a Grammy Award this year as the Best Contemporary Christian Music Album, so I guess you now know what I am talking about.
Her music style is beautiful. It is beautiful in such a way that If you are a young person who prefers to listen to upbeat music, yet music that is still theologically sound and alive, Mandisa's music should be in your collection. Yes, it should be.
Overcomer tells us we may be down for a moment, feeling like it's hopeless... but that's when He comes along... Yes, in whatever we face He reminds us that we are MORE THAN OVERCOMERS!! So, we should not quit or give in, because we are more than overcomers...!!

I need not add more, right?

Here are the lyrics and downloads to the two songs (plus a third one at the bottom from Britt Nicole - you should get that one too. :-))

Song: Thrive
Track number: 1
Album: Thrive
Year released: January, 2014
Artist: Casting Crowns
Lyrics:
Whoooooooah!!!!
Here in this worn and weary land where many a dream has died
Like a tree planted by the water we never will run dry

Bridge:
So living water flowing through
God we thirst for more of You
Fill our hearts and flood our souls
With one desire...

Chorus:
Just to know You and to make You known, we lift Your name on High
Shine like the sun make darkness run and hide
We know we were made for so much more than ordinary lives
It's time for us to more than just survive...
We were made to thrive!


Into Your word we're digging deep to know our Father's heart
Into the world we're reaching out to show them who You are

Bridge:
So living water flowing through
God we thirst for more of You
Fill our hearts and flood our souls
With one desire...

Repeat Chorus

Vamp:
(Joy Unspeakable, Faith Unsinkable, Love Unstoppable, Anything is possible) x4

Repeat Chorus

Hey!
We were made to Thrive...!!
Whoooooooah!!!!
We were made to Thrive...!!


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Song: Overcomer
Track number: 1
Album: Overcomer
Year released: August, 2013
Artist: Mandisa
Lyrics:
Staring at a stop sign, watching people drive by, T Mac on the radio
Got so much on your mind, nothing's really going right, Looking for a ray of hope

Bridge:
Whatever it is you may be going through
I know He's not gonna let it get the best of you

Chorus:
You're an overcomer, stay in the fight ‘til the final round
You're not going under, 'Cause God is holding you right now
You might be down for a moment, feeling like it's hopeless, that's when He reminds You
That you're an overcomer, you're an overcomer

Everybody's been down, hit the bottom, hit the ground, ooh, you're not alone
Just take a breath, don't forget, hang on to His promises
He wants You to know...

Repeat Chorus

Vamp:
The same Man, the Great I am, the one who overcame death, He's living inside of You
So just hold tight, fix your eyes, on the one who holds your life, there's nothing He can't do
He's telling you...

(Take a breath, don't forget, hang on to His promises)

Repeat Chorus

(You're an overcomer) x3

End:
So don't quit, don't give in, you're an overcomer
Don't quit, don't give in, you're an overcomer
Don't quit, don't give in, you're an overcomer
You're an overcomer...


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For lovers of pop and a touch of techno, I am adding a song by one Britt Nicole - one lady I have really come to admire and love. (I'll talk about her in detail some other time.)
Her music style is unique, borrowing from pop, electronic and techno genres. She has three albums to her name, and I am sure there is much more to expect from her...
Here's the song: Britt Nicole - Still That Girl download (4.3 MB).



All lyrics originally obtained from: http://www.azlyrics.com




Bonface Morris.



Friday, April 11, 2014

The Will of God: Tips on Understanding It

This is the longest post I have ever written. It should have been split into five or so posts, but the Lord said no… and who am I to say ‘no’ to His ‘no’? 
Anyway, I am going to divide it into five parts, with no criterion for division whatsoever…

*Deep breathe…*

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When I got saved a few years ago - eleven to be precise - in the first few years of my salvation, I had a hard time making decisions that would positively influence my life and those around me in a Christian way. This was because the direction my life had taken demanded that I make decisions that would please God and still be relevant to me and the society I was living in. I was terribly overwhelmed.

I was always hearing about something called "The Will of God", and that this thing was in the Swahili Bible I carried (yeah, I didn't possess an English Bible until a year later – don’t ask me why, that can be a story for another day), but could never really grasp what it entirely meant.

Now, the problem was that I had to read my Bible (which right then was harder than anything I’ve ever tried) and "get" that Will – God’s Will for my life. This made it even more complicated.

But after spending a few years in a relationship with the Lord, I have come to notice a few consistent things in this walk and the way He speaks. This is what I choose to share with us today: His Will, and simple steps towards understanding it.

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If you were to make a Google search of this phrase: “the Will of God for my life”, you are likely to get thousands (or even millions) of answers depending the SEO for various websites. That is how “smart” Google has become today – providing “answers” to questions it is asked by people who wish it really possessed such answers... But the question still remains: does Google really know that much about God’s Will for our lives? Really?

One of the beautiful things about Christianity is that there is only one source of answers that is accessible by all and at all times, and that is reliable and true: its author, Jesus Christ. It doesn’t need a phone or an internet-activated gadget. It just needs Him. We may try to find answers elsewhere but we will always hit a wall and come back to where we began: Jesus. We will come back to the author of life, the author of what we believe in... That is why Google, with all its databases of information that is just a click away has not yet managed to answer what Christianity is all about. It may try to define it and give directions on how it is acquired and lived, but the ultimate source of information about Christianity and God will always be God Himself.


So how do we understand the Will of God (what He has planned for us and what He desires of us as we live in this world – my own definition actually) at an intimate level, and not just the Google way? (Because, anyway, this blog is also a “Google way”.)


Let us begin by noting the following;




After understanding the truth above, let me practically show you what I have found out over the years in simple terms;
1.      If, at the beginning, you don’t understand much about God’s Will for your life, don't get overwhelmed. Everything takes time. There is no formula to understanding God’s Will.  Take your time. Relax.
2.      After you’ve relaxed, now start to consistently studying God's Word with a desire to know what He desired/required of the people He interacted with in the past and the possible ways in which you can relate those life events with what is happening in your life today - start understanding God's nature. This means that you’ll need a Bible (and a pen if necessary.)
3.      After beginning to understand God’s nature, relax again. Relax and begin to desire to know more. Be inquisitive. Ask questions as you read or meditate: Why did God behave this way? Why did this person do this? How better would they have done it? Why was God angry/pleased in this occasion?  As you begin to do this, God will start to reveal Himself more to you by answering those questions by His Spirit in you and making those past experiences relevant to you right now.
4.      Read His Word again, now seeking that the things you are reading will transform you. Talk to Him. Talk to God through your reading. Whisper about what you understand.

There is no “working formula” to understanding God’s Will.  Take your time. You will understand it soon.

The more you do this, the more you will find out that His Word has started transforming you, His Spirit's voice starts becoming more real and louder than ever before, and that you are becoming more obedient to it.

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Below are various ways to help you sieve through your actions and reactions to practical life situations as you progress in this life, which will help you prove whether you are walking in God's Will for your life or not.
Note: There is a Biblical example for each one of them. Read it to understand the significance of the point in that context and its relevance to you. All Bible quotations are from the English Standard Version Bible unless otherwise.
In whatever you do;
1.      If it is done in a hurry or in a rush, and you are overwhelmed by indecision, and it is highly provocative, God is not in it.
Biblical example - Eve in Genesis 3:6 when craving and rushing to eat the forbidden fruit given to her by the devil (the serpent) and King Saul in 1 Samuel 13:8-14 when he was impatient and failed to wait for the prophet Samuel to sacrifice to the Lord. He instead rushed into war without God’s guidance.
Lesson – Impatience and hurry are mostly of the devil, and never of God.

2.      If you are doubtful of the decision you are about to make, it is either you are limiting God or you are afraid.
Biblical example – Peter in Matthew 14:30-31 when he doubted if he can walk on water. He sunk!
Lesson – Doubt is accompanied with fear. And fear had nothing to do with God: the righteous shall live by faith – by every Word that proceeds from His mouth.

3.      If it not in line with God's Word, regardless of who is speaking it - an angel, a mighty prophet, a great preacher, or whatever - as long as it does not obey the holistic nature of God's Word, He does not approve of it.
Biblical example – Paul says the same thing to the Galatians in Galatians 1:8 and Jesus told off Satan in the same way in Luke 4:1-13 and to Peter in Matthew 16:22-23.
Lesson – Anything that is not in line with God’s Word, even if it is being quoted by an angel himself, it is not God’s Will for your life.

4.      If it is harming you (your morals, your body, your mind and good values) or someone else’s, God is not in it.
Biblical verses – The apostle John says in 3 John 1: 3 that, I pray that all may go well with you and that you may be in good health, as it goes well with your soul.  The apostle Paul says in Philippians 2:4 Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others and in Romans 12:2 Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
Lesson – The ultimate good is found in serving others and God. Our bodies are to be used for His glory. That is His Will for us. Remember WWJD? Yeah, use it often.

5.      If it is hindering your spiritual growth and maturity, and it is depriving you of peace, God is likely to be far away from it; and if it does not give you peace when doing it and your heart and mind are troubled at the thought of doing it, God is far away from it.
Bible verses/example - Matthew 5:9 “Blessed are the peace makers…” In Acts 9:31, it is said, So the church throughout all Judea and Galilee and Samaria had peace and was being built up. And walking in the fear of the Lord and in the comfort of the Holy Spirit, it multiplied. And in Philippians 4:7: And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
We find a good Biblical example in the book of Psalm 51 when David is deprived of peace because of sinning with Bathsheba and killing her husband. His guilty conscience indicates that he is out of the will of God.
Lesson – Peace in the heart and in the mind is one of the greatest indicators that God is with you and that you are in His Will.

6.      If it is being done out of greed, lust, selfish ambition, selfish gain, self exaltation, jealousy, envy, with a hidden agenda etc, God is not in it.
Biblical example/verses – In the book of Daniel, King Nebuchadnezzar’s greed and thinking that he was a god caused him to be sent into the wild for 7 years. King Saul’s envy of David cost him his throne. Judas Iscariot’s greed led him to a shameful death. Ananias and Sapphira’s selfishness and lies led them to the grave.
Proverbs 15:27 Whoever is greedy for unjust gain troubles his own household, but he who hates bribes will live.
Prov 28:25 A greedy man stirs up strife, but the one who trusts in the LORD will be enriched.
1Cor 6:10 “…nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.
Prov 20:10 Unequal weights and unequal measures are both alike an abomination to the LORD.
Prov 11:1 A false balance is an abomination to the LORD, but a just weight is his delight.
Lesson – Greed and self-centredness are the very opposite of the nature of Christ who was/is loving, considerate and selfless. If we desire to be in His Will, we’ve got to be like Him.

7.      If the way or the means by which it is being done, and its end does not glorify God, then He is not in it.
Bible verses/examples – In 1Corinthians 10:31, the apostle Paul says, So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.
The pride and arrogance seen in most Kings of Israel e.g. Ahab led to the fall of many and their dynasties. Balaam (a weird prophet) sought his own good from his interaction with Balak (King of Moab) and ended up on his own (Numbers 22 and 23). Diotrephes, a church elder mentioned by the apostle John in 3 John 1:9, was a man “who liked to put himself first…”. His end was full of darkness.
Lesson – If God is receiving the glory and it is all about Him, it doesn’t matter whether you are being misunderstood or not, and whether you are facing opposition or not, stay focused. It is His Will.

8.      This article suggests that for many decisions involving the secular world, we need to ask ourselves the following questions in order to decipher if we are in God’s Will or not;
a.       What do I really want?
b.      Am I truly Seeking God’s Kingdom first?
c.          Have I asked for and pursued Wisdom from God about this matter?
d.      Have I gotten wise counsel?
e.       Do I have all the facts?

9.      Lastly, if it is not being approved by the spiritual and Spirit-filled community, I doubt if God is in it.
Biblical example/verses: One person who really sought counsel in the Bible is David – not only from God but from spiritual leaders too. We see this in his close relationship with the Prophet Nathan in 2 Samuel 12 when he freely comes to correct him in his wrongs.
Prov 15:22 Without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed.
Prov 11:14 Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counsellors there is safety.

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Remember:
1.      Problems, challenges and temptations do not necessarily imply that you're out of God's Will. They may be part of your trimming into what He has for you, so take heart.
There is suffering that is out of sin (1 Peter 2:20 and 2 Corinthians 7:10-11), and suffering that that is part of your Christian growth (James 1:2, 1 Peter 2:19-20 and Romans 8:18. )
2.      Sin deviates us from God's Will, but that is not final. Like the Prodigal Son in Luke 16, we can still come back running to the mercy seat. He is faithful to forgive. (1 John 1:9)
3.      Our good plans may or may not be part of God's Will. We may need to inquire with Him first before concluding that those good plans are His Will for us. Not every good plan is in God's Will for us, but all evil is of the devil. (An example is King Saul in 1 Samuel 15 when he chose not to kill all the plunder and the Amalekite people after war in the name of "keeping the best sacrifice for God").
4.      God has said something about everything in our lives. We just need to read more of His Word to understand this. Minus His Word, we are only left to speculation, empty proclamations and constant wishful thinking.
5.      There is nothing like "God's permissive will" and "God's perfect will". That's a human philosophy that seeks to deviate us from the Truth; and it is like saying that there exists "God's permissive Word which can be compromised" and "God's prefect Word which cannot be compromised". There is nothing like that. God’s Will cannot be compromised. It is infallible. The Word of God is perfect (Psalm 19:7) and 2 Timothy 3:16 says, "Every scripture is inspired by God and useful for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness..." There is only but the Will of God: His Word. Nothing more, nothing less.
6.      We cannot change God's Will for our lives: it is intact. Nothing can change it. We are predestined for many great things which He planned beforehand for us... But, yes, but, sin is the only thing that will derail us from His Will. So there is nothing like, "once saved, always saved". No. Romans 6:23 "For the payoff of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord."
7.      We can, through prayer and intercession, ask God to change some things that are in contrary to His Will, or things that we know should be part of His Will for our lives or others' lives. Abraham in Genesis 18 pleads for the salvation of Lot and Sodom and Gomorrah and we see Moses in Exodus 32 and 33 pleading for the salvation of the children of Israel.
8.      God punishes His children when they wrong. It is part of His Will for our lives. (Hebrews 12:7 "Endure your suffering as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is there that a father does not discipline?").
9.      God wants the best for us and nothing else. The devil wants what is evil for us – that is why his name means “man’s opponent” or “adversary”.
10.  We can never FULLY understand God’s Will. Never. But as long as we have the mind of Christ (1 Corinthians 2:16), we know His Will. This is not ambiguous, but plain Truth. Meditate on it.
11.  God does not lie. God does not manipulate. God is all-knowing. God can do all things. God is everywhere (the devil is not). God loves us so much that He gave Himself up to save us from sin and the devil. God is pure, perfect and holy. The way God works transcends all human understanding. God can hide some things from us and yet reveal others for our own good. God does not compromise or show favoritism. God is mighty and sovereign above all things known, unknown, living or non-living. God is not limited by situations, circumstances or lifestyles. God is infinitely eternal. God is above everything known or unknown. God knows you better than you know yourself. God is the Creator of all things.
12.  The devil can use God's Word to deceive us into sinning (like he did with Jesus in Luke Chapter 4 during His temptation in the wilderness), so we need to use God's Spirit in discerning the lies and sieving them with the Truth when the situation arises.
13.  In a “black-and-white-situation”, calmness, patience, prayer and resulting peace lead us to making more Godly decisions than rushing in and trying to “figure it out” on our own.
  
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You may ask, "How am I to differentiate between God’s voice and the devil’s?"
I will share with you a few differences between the two;
1.      God's voice is calm and brings peace (See 1 Kings 19:12 when He speaks to Elijah and when He talked to Gideon or David before they went to war). Queen Esther waited for this voice for days before approaching the King in Esther 5 – in the fullness of time, she took action to report Haman’s plot.
The devil's voice is cunning, authoritative and enticing (as seen in the actions of Cain, Esau and in David when lusting over Bathsheba).
2.      God's voice brings you to purity, leads you away from sin and is in line with His Word; the devil's is not: it takes advantage of your weaknesses, manipulates you and seeks to control you.
3.      God's voice does not lead to a guilty conscience and self-condemnation, but the devil's voice lies to you, deceives you and condemns you even after repentance.
4.      God's voice is patient, while the devil's voice commands you to MOVE NOW!! Or DO IT NOW!!


I hope this post has helped you or will help you in understanding a few things about God's Will for your life.

Stay blessed.




Bonface Morris.